Friday, April 18, 2008

Message from NC Wanted


Programming Alert: For the next two Saturday nights, see the stunning results of NC WANTED's year-long investigation into Carrboro's unsolved case of Debbie Key. NC WANTED was granted exclusive access to three of the principal figures in this controversial case, including the lead investigator, the former D.A. and the primary suspect.

For anyone who tracks high-profile controversial cases, these next two shows are a must-see.

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NC WANTED airs Saturday nights after the 10 O'clock News on FOX50,
and after WRAL's 11 O'clock News on WILM-TV in Wilmington.

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Joy said...

I have been watching the news and saw the segment of NC Wanted about
Debbie's case. I was pleased about it being re-visited, and the
attention that has been revived, especially if it can make young women
aware of the dangers to us, whether we are someone like Debbie or
someone like Eve Carson.

I am troubled that a few of the authorities and even Debbie's friends
have described her as a "party girl" who sometimes drank "too much".
Andrew said "She had a reputation as a bit of a 'lush'" Well, that's
why she's gone.

As a non-drinker (except an occasional beer with pizza or a shot now
and then) I question what is "too much". For a tee-totatler, one drop
is too much. For an alcoholic, a few beers is a start. For me, 2 beers
is more than I need. Since prohibition was repealed, each person can
legally choose how much to drink when they reach, oh, 21 right now. My
sister turned 18 and could drink legally for 6 months. The law changed,
and she could not drink until she turned 19. She did, and legally had a
beer or two until the law changed again, and she could not again choose
to drink until she turned 21. She kept waiting for the law to change

The image that Debbie was a "party girl" is a bit of a stretch. She was
a hard worker, responsible for the children in her care (although I
don't remember specifically that she cared for disabled children) and
did not drive when she should not. She was going through a bad
break-up, and perhaps was drinking more than her usual. I would have!
Still, Debbie never got mean or belligerent after consuming any amount
of alcohol. She was always the last to go to sleep when a crowd was
hanging out at one of our homes. I especially take offense on her
behalf that "she would go with strangers as long as they offered her
free alcohol." That is a fabrication, or someone misspoke while being
interviewed. Debbie was friendly, but not stupid. Possibly a little
"ditzy" according to some of our more cynical and judgemental friends,
but certainly not dumb enough to go off with someone because they waved
a beer at her. I have bought a beer for friends when we were out. Does
that now mean I can molest them, or even murder them if I feel the
trade-off is uneven?

One politician responds to a question about temperance: If you're
talking about the alcohol that tears families apart, causes people to
harm each other, makes a man irresponsible for house and home, and
causes women to neglect their children and ruin their health, them I'm
agin it.
If you're talking about the friendly drink, the social lubricant that
eases tensions, helps you forget a bad day and helps you to laugh among
friends because you have been tense and can now relax, then I'm for it!

I suggest that those who tell a tale about Debbie drinking too much are
attempting to blame the victim so we can feel safer. It could not
happen to us because we don't drink "too much" or don't drink in the
wrong place. That gets subjective, doesn't it? A wino thinks that the
front of the store is the right place. If Eve Carson was jogging to the
convenience store for a brew instead of going to make copies uptown (or
wherever she was) would her murder be less senseless? Debbie did love
socializing, she loved music, she loved to dance and hug her friends,
and did care for people in general. Is that naive? Did she "ask for
it"? If that's so, then we women better start wearing veils and not
going out in public for fear that we will be considered loose and come
to harm. As Joni Mitchell put it "Constant in the darkness? If you want
me, I'll be at the bar."

Bill W said...

My research indicates that Debbie worked as a teacher at "The Community School for People Under Six."
Some say the children at this school were not disabled but underprivileged. Some say this is a "special ed" sort of school. Some say being of lower income is a disability.
I've had the opportunity to talk to a person who also worked as a teacher at this school when Debbie worked there. She told me, "Debbie was a lot of fun to work with."

I can tell you that I knew Debbie well enough to say she certainly was not the kind of woman who could be bribed by offering her drinks, nor could she be bribed to grant sexual favors by any means.
I'm sure anyone who knew Debbie at all would back me up on this.

While I strongly disagree with Mr. Hawthorn's description of Debbie, I see nothing wrong with being known as a "party girl."

Joy said...

Joy here. Community School For People Under Six, where Debbie and I worked, was a celebration of diversity. We had all kinds of children, which was the mission statement of CSPU6. "Normal" children alongside kids from "disadvantaged" homes, black, white, Asian kids, actors' and doctors' kids alongside stay-at-home moms' kids, all swinging on the same swing sets.